For me, living in the UK, Friday came and went as usual. Went to work, had a doctor’s appointment, went home to my wife and son. I’m pretty lucky as an LGBTQ person – I get to marry and be the mother of a child I had with the woman I love and have my rights a person protected by the law.
I felt I had to say something about this weekend. Because while I am British, my wife is American and not yet a British citizen and I have a lot of American friends.
Last year for LGBTQ Americans was amazing.
This year could be awful. Already the Whitehouse has removed the LGBT page on their website (pages on climate change and civil rights have also disappeared), Trumps advisors mostly anti-LGBT, his Vice President is very anti-LGBT. People are scared. Maybe they should be scared. Everything Obama did could be removed as the Republicans now control the house and senate.
It could be unfounded fear but even if I don’t live in America I feel that fear myself. I think it’s the way things seem to be going backwards and the power and influence the US seems to have over the rest of the world that leaves me a little uncertain. That and my wife is American and we’re going there for a visit in August. In seven months time what will things be like if we’re starting off with such an obvious anti-LGBT sign
It is in all likelihood, just a transition of websites from one President to another. Snopes certainly seems to indicate this is the case. Everything from Obama’s version of the site still exists, and so does all the work he’s done over the past eight years. I hope it remains the case, I really do, but I think the reason everyone has jumped onto this story is because we were already scared that this would be the case. It’s like being in the sea and afraid of sharks. Every piece of driftwood then becomes a shark. Which is fine, it’s just driftwood.
Except for the one piece that is actually a damn shark.
This could be the shark. The tip of a fin from far away and we’re never going to be able to outswim it.
So now what?
We Won’t Go Back
Like GLAAD have said, “We Won’t Go Back.” Don’t hide who you are and don’t ever stop fighting. We deserve equality, whoever we and wherever we go.
Don’t just wait and see. That’s what people are saying. Wait and see if your entire world gets pulled from under you. No thanks.
Get involved in some activism. Millions of LGBTQ people were at the women’s march this weekend, all over the world. Go to your local Gay Pride this year. Be happy. Live your life.
And be prepared. Not for the worst, but for something. Be prepared and find some future support in your area. Wikipedia has a list of LGBT Rights organisations in America, National and state ones. The It Gets Better Project has a support page where you can choose your state and find help wherever in the US you are. The internet has forums, facebook groups and everything in between. Use it.
Don’t be discouraged. If anyone ever needs to talk about being queer or depressed, I’m always available.