“If I’m gonna tell a real story, I’m gonna start with my name.”

We’ve already chosen a name.

The sonographer confirmed we were having a boy at the last scan, which basically just confirms our choice of name and means we don’t have to decide between the two female/gender neutral names we’d narrowed it down to.

The naming process started at twelve weeks for us – getting through those scary first few weeks where we’re on edge, half expecting something to go wrong, refusing to even think about names until that first trimester was up. Then I put a sheet of paper up on the fridge for ideas, which meant we could have suggestions from the peanut gallery too. Both of my niece’s suggestions were immediately veto’d and not entered onto the list. I added the first few names that had been floating around in my head for the first few weeks (we were thinking about just not talking about it). Bethend added a few. My mum too.

We’ve pretty much gone with the first name I wrote on the list.

I was surprised actually at how easy it turned out to be or how certain we would both be, After the twenty weeks scan, that night in bed, we mentioned how we could start concentrating on choosing a name and I said I wanted to call him – insert name here – and bethend agreed and that was that.

We haven’t wavered since.

Not everyone knows yet – some do and some don’t mostly to avoid three months of discussion about the name. And by discussion I mean arguments. Sometimes it’s easier to avoid the arguments altogether. Not that we’ve chosen a really odd name but some people will never be happy, so this is just easier on us.

We’ve given him a middle name too, and he’ll have our surname. I changed mine last year to my wife’s because I want us all to have the same name. It’s something that’s become important to me though I never thought it would.

Then, I never thought I would have kids at all.

I grew us in a three name family. My sister has a different surname to both her kids too and that bugs me. It doesn’t make a difference to her, or to how she raises her kids, she’s a great mum, but something in me that isn’t quite tangible enough to explain doesn’t want that. I think I equate it with broken families, and one of my bigger fears is for my little family to break up.

To continue the cycle.

A post for another day.

So we have a name, we just need a baby to go with it.




5 Replies to ““If I’m gonna tell a real story, I’m gonna start with my name.”

  1. Choosing a name for your baby is one of those exciting moments, isn’t it? Same here, we all have same surnames as well, I think I prefer it that way too. #brillblogposts

  2. Hubby and I named our second daughter similarly. We thought we were having a boy and couldn’t come up with a name. Found out she was a girl at the 20 week scan, got home, and I said, “She doesn’t really feel like a *fill in name that we had been contemplating for a girl with both kids*. What about *what her name is*? Do we want to go with that?” And that was that. lol
    We kept our second daughter’s name a secret until she was born too. It was really hard. I have a big family and they are nosy as hell! lol Congratulations and good luck!

  3. Choosing a name can be so hard. Especially with a difference of opinion. My husband and I went through that, we have finally settled on a boys and a girls name (for when we do have one of our own). Thanks for sharing and linking up for some #mommatime!

  4. Choosing a name is a very important decision as it will stick with a child their entire life. Thanks for sharing on #mommatime

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *