Into 2019

So, the hiatus went on a little longer than expected but as part of my pledge to write 200,000 words in 2019, I’m back. More on that pledge later.

2018 hasn’t been a great year. Between work and my mental health, it’s been rough. We had big plans at the beginning of the year and few have come to fruition for various reasons. We found and lost a donor, had some attempts at getting pregnant that came to nothing and now we have to start to process over again. That was a rough couple of months and not something I’ve talked about much.

Bethend has found the year particulary hard too, with disapointments, mental health, dealing with me, my work issues and being a mum has meant it’s a taxing year. Through in some health problems at the end and well, we’re all a little run down.


Some good things did happen in 2018

Phineas' xmas photos
This years Christmas photo by Elizabeth Edward Photography.

Snappy has had a great year. He’s speaking in full demands sentences, recognising letters, counting to ten. He has almost all of his teeth and the last four – his canines – are coming through finally. His potty training is coming along and he’s really social now when he goes to playgroup.

He also figured out how to put the television on, a dvd into the PS4 and that if he presses enough buttons on the controller it will play too. This is less of a milestone and more of ‘oh boy are we in trouble’.

He’s also discovered the word “why”.

My in-laws visited for two weeks for Thanksgiving. They got to experience the full toddler experience. Several viewings of the Music Man, operas, Cinderella ballet and Snappy riding around and around on his bike in the nude screaming. I had to work most of the time they were here but we did manage to go to Chester so the Zoo and see the light festival there which was fantastic.

My current job is fantastic but still leaves me a little up in the air. Hopefully, I’ll get a contract until March and then after that it depends on the budget. This is what happens when you work for a charity. I’m hopeful though, I get on well with my boss, it’s good work, I’m home by six every evening and I don’t work weekends.

It’s left me a lot of time to spend working on my mental health, my relationship with my son and my writing. All of these things have improved. I’ve changed my medication over – though the week I spent between them was bad. I cried every single day. My boss was very understand and as soon as I started the new meds I felt better. In generally my mental health is getting back to normal (my normal).

Writing in 2019

In July I started writing again. Dragon Age fanfiction again, and just that at first and then I started branching back out into original fiction again. Other than the blog, I hadn’t written any fiction since July 2017 (I checked). By December 31st I’d written 103,887 words in six months.

A cold road ahead.

I redid my writing website and I also built up my Patreon a little, so now I have six patrons. My focus is fantasy, science-fiction and fanfiction, with wlw (women who love women) and non-binary characters. I hope to grow it even more in 2019. In December I did a Trope Advent Calendar and posted something every day, the smallest fic around 500 words the largest around 5000. I hope to do similar things in the coming year. Feel free to check it out and sign up for $1 a month.

I also discovered a website called Get Your Words Out. It’s a word count and habit pledge site. I put together a spreadsheet of all the fiction I wrote in 2018 and as I mentioned I wrote 103,887 words. That doesn’t even count the blog posts I wrote last year. So I’ve pledged to write 200,000 words in 2019. That will include all my fiction and blog posts, Apparently, I can count poetry as well but we’ll see.

I plan to write and finish a novel this year and I think the pledge will, help with that. It works out at 548 words a day, and well, this blog posts is already 716 words long. It will also get me writing in the blog again.

QLF in 2019

I’m going to make a conscious effort to update the blog regulary once more. What I won’t be doing is promoting it as heavily. It taks time away from writing and I don’t always see benefit from it. Emotionally at least. I just want to write and get back to the roots of blogging.

So I will write, and take part in things like KCACOLS because there is some real benefit in communicating and supporting other blogs but threads and promotion and guest posts I probably won’t be bothering with as much.If you want to keep up with the blog it’s easy to do – you can like us on facebook , or follow us twitter or instagram account.

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22 Responses

  1. Well done on getting back to writing and good luck with the little one at the ‘why’ stage #KCACOLS

  2. Veronica Lee says:

    I think it’s wonderful that you are getting back to writing. All the best!

    Happy 2019!


  3. Great blog goals for 2019! All the best to you QLF 🙂 #KCACOLS

  4. Ann says:

    Lovely idea – I hope the writing goes well. I agree things like #kcacols is really beneficial. There’s a lot to be said for communicating with and supporting other bloggers.

  5. Having goals and sticking to them are important and if you didn’t get to complete things that you wanted to do last year, there’s always time to schedule those things into 2019. Good luck with all your writing! #KCACOLS

  6. Great blog goals. Happy New Year and all the best for 2019 #KCACOLS

  7. Jen Cannon says:

    Congrats on starting your writing again. It is so hard to get started if you ever stop. I hope you get your contract so there will be some stability that is lacking now.


  8. Sam Kay says:

    Wishing you the best with writing! And this post has reminded me to set some blog goals too 🙂 #kcacols

  9. Su (Ethan & Evelyn) says:

    Writing is very theraputic I find. It sounds like you guys had good and tough points but onwards and upwards! #KCACOLS

  10. Good luck with your writing this year. I will be checking some of the sites you mentioned out to help me with my own writing #kcacols

  11. Its easy to get burned out with the promotion side of blogging, I do much less of it myself nowadays. Hope you have a better 2019 and good for you for getting back to fiction writing, sometimes its the first few words that are the hardest to get down #KCACOLS

  12. Keep up the writing Bread… You need it, and so do we <3 #kcacols
    I need to keep at it too xo

  13. Lana says:

    Keep up the writing! I am so sorry you had a rough 2018. I wish only the best for you and your family in 2019. Good luck with the 200,000 words pledge!! Followed you on Twitter!! 🙂 #KCACOLS

  14. Jenna says:

    Good Luck with the writing goal! You sound really determined and I am certain you’ll smash it!

    I’m sorry you had a rough 2018, fertility can be such a draining experience. I’m in my 11th year of trying to have a baby now, and after 3 miscarriages and no pregnancies for 7 years I’ve finally accepted I need counselling for the losses and to get back to being well. I also have mental health problems and they can also be draining do fertility and mental health together, I feel you. Sending love and hugs to all of you


    Love from Jenna

  15. Good luck with the writing. I think you’ve got some great goals there #KCACOLS

  16. mainy says:

    Sorry to hear you have not had the best of years. I hope that things do get better for you in all of the areas you wish. I like how honest you are and your focus on your writing, I look forward to reading some of your new pieces. Here’s to a good 2019 all round.

  17. Carol Cameleon says:

    Amid the downs, it’s great that you had a good year and I love how you rephrase the toddler phase! #kcacols

  18. Great to hear the new medication is working well for you and you are enjoying your job. Good luck with the writing #KCACOLS

  19. Ali Duke says:

    The writing sounds great, it must be so nice to be back to it. I know about mental health struggles, I am currently off work due to depression. It really does take it out of you doesn’t it.

  20. Crummy Mummy says:

    200,000 words is a lot! Good luck! #KCACOLS

  21. Sorry to hear about your difficulties in 2018. Hopefully 2019 will bring nothing but good things. And good luck on writing your novel. I’ll be keeping an eye out for that. #KCACOLS

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